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Are We Dating The Same Guy?
What I discovered when I joined a group dedicated to exposing cheaters
Dating is an endeavor that I’ve never enjoyed. It’s often stressful, and sometimes depressing. More often than not, dating is full of unnecessary drama. Maybe the drama is why I was drawn to join a “Are we dating the same guy?” group on Facebook, despite not being interested in venturing into the dating world myself.
I’d seen posts about these groups on TikTok and expected a laugh or two. I thought I might even see someone I knew featured in one of the posts. I also wanted a fresh perspective on dating, and I genuinely wanted to root for some of the couples. I quickly learned that no man in the group was worth rooting for.
Cheaters and narcissists come in all shapes and sizes
When I picture a cheater or a narcissist, I have a particular image in mind. He’s attractive enough to draw the attention of multiple women. He’s on the younger side, early twenties to mid-thirties, and has a full head of hair.
That image quickly faded when I realized the liars and cheaters featured in the group were often well beyond retirement age. Not only were the men older than expected, but it was rare that I saw one who I felt was attractive.
